Oooh, it’s sooo great that this thread was created!
I don’t know if I am young enough for you (34) but I am married, I met my DH on a website like this one, and I relocated to his continent.
Now to your questions.
1. How do you chose to move from one country to another?
I moved to him because he doesn’t speak my language and his job requires advanced knowledge of technical language, and he already had a good job in his country, and I knew English, and my job was less important, besides, I want to be a SAHM anyway. My job was easier to change as I speak more than one language and my job can be done in all Western countries.
2. Did you learn his language or did he learn yours?
I already knew his language as I have been learning languages since early childhood and have always enjoyed it and found it easy.
3. Do you go out more with his group of friends or with your group of friends?
Only his as all my friends I left in Europe, but I have been very busy making my own friends (women from churches) so now I have friends who are mostly my friends, but apart from that I joined his circle of friends which he had before.
4. Did you join finances or keep them separate?
We have a joint bank account.
5. At what point in the relationship did you go live together?
It wasn’t possible for us to live together long-term before marriage because of immigration laws so we kept visiting each other until I came for the last time and we got married and applied for necessary permits.
6. Did you skip the “first house” step and just saved for a nicer house later in? Do you prefer rent+flexibility or home ownership+stability?
We are renting and waiting to buy till my immigration process is over but the stupid plandemic slows everything down.
7. Is a gym at home a better investment than gym membership with a coach?
I personally LOVE going to the gym but because of the plandemic gyms are closed anyway and my husband already had some equipment at home anyway, I only asked him to buy smaller dumbbells additionally for me (his are too heavy for me).
I think it depends on the gym chain and the costs of the membership vs. equipment—-first means long-term expenses but lower amounts, second: one-time high expense plus alternatively the costs of repair.
8. What are some joint activities you do that you consider an investment for the relationship?
I promised Liv not to promote Christianity so I can’t answer this one. 😉
Especially now, during the Covid madness, I think ALONE TIME from each other from time to time is crucial so that both spouses can take a break from each other and miss each other.
9. Is WFH preferable for men or is it better to have them working outside so they can network with other men?
Absolutely crucial for the man to go outside and socialize with other men. Unless he still does that after work but then he will be away for work AND after work—-and what about the time for the family?
@AfterTheRain, is your boyfriend from abroad and are you considering moving abroad to join him? Did you meet online if I may ask?
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