The mother/father of my children

Generous – The mistakes of husbands are inflicted on his entire family. The result is that husbands live with the guilt and wives have to accept sharing these consequences. Likewise man is responsible for the actions of his wife and similarly here, woman have to live with the guilt while husbands need to accept responsibility for their wives action as if they were their own. Both therefore need to come up with immense generosity and compassion to forgive and endure each other’s shortcomings while rejecting the teaching of the world that each individual should demand rights from the other.
Cleave – This is an interesting word, it is the one used to describe the relationship between a man and his wife in Gen 2:24. What exactly does that mean? The strong’s reference number is H1692 and could also be translated as ”catch by pursuit”, implying that the connectedness between these two people is being actively sought after jointly and continuously, it is not a one-time thing, but a process maintained and enhanced into infinity.
Kind – Life’s sorrows can be enormous and the heart needs to have enough depth to drown them all.
Loyalty – not just towards her husband and family, but also towards her own principles, morals and values. Loyalty is the tree, trustworthiness, love and solid faith are the fruits.
Humility – Humility is the foundation of all the other virtues, one needs to be able to reduce the self before being able to build the other. The soul in which this virtue does not exist there cannot be any other virtue except false appearance.
Charitable – this difficult topic has become so corrupted, a pure form thereof I may have longed for but am either ignorant or incompetent to identify when it does come by, since I tend to stomp right over it only realizing later the damage I’ve done. At home and in our families, I understand this to involve mainly self-sacrificing – motherhood, careers, lifestyle are competing against each other. We are deceived and lied to when told career and lifestyle rank evenly with our mother/fatherhood privileges in the family, indoctrinated by the narrative of striving to be strong, powerful, financially and physically independent individuals rather than families. The good type of self-sacrifice may leave you tired, yet miraculously also safe, provided for and fulfilled. The bad type will outwardly paint your appearance as covered in gold and diamonds, yet inside have you shattered, exploited and impoverished. The good type is inspired by love, managed by wisdom and matures in physical and spiritual enrichment. The bad type is inspired by selfishness, managed by greed and matures when the false intentions are eventually unveiled and it becomes known that the pretended charity was in fact heartless thievery that spared nothing.